After having our 4th kid, Frankie, my body hated me! It ached more than it ever did with the other 3 children. My back was more sore when I would breastfeed. My feet hurt a little more as they widened during pregnancy, which I had heard could happened, but had never experienced before! My abs were more sensitive than usual. Not only did I lack sleep from staying up all hours of the night with the newborn, but I was exhausted from keeping up with the older 3. I naturally thought those things were exaggerated due to exhaustion and my body’s simple need to recover. They were things that I could accept dealing with because they were just things to be expected. Thankfully all of those ailments slowly went away over time (about 9 months to be exact). But as those went away and I started to feel “normal” again, something else creeped in…mom wrists. Yep, I didn’t even know it was a thing, but after nerve testing and PT, I was officially diagnosed with them. And alas, about a year and a half later, I am still dealing with it. What are these wrists that I speak of? Well, essentially it is tendonitis, or to be more exact it is, De Quervain’s tenosynovitis. It is caused by the constant torque movement caused by picking up, holding, and nursing babies. Crazy huh?
Fortunately, my mom wrists come and go at this point. There are weeks where I can go about doing daily normal activity. I can do my work outs. I can push the kids on the swing. I can iron my husband’s clothes. Heck, I can even push a door open. But following those weeks, there are periods of extreme wrist pain where I cannot do any of those things. This is so unfathomable to me. That the woman’s body is made to carry and nourish a child for 9 months, but pushing a door open afterwards may not be an option.
I don’t write this post to complain. I write it to seek solidarity. To all of the other moms out there. Or even dads, because I know you do your fair share of tending to the kids too. Do you have these crazy weak and painful wrists they have dubbed, “mom wrists”? Or do you have something else? Are you currently dealing with it? Or was it something that is luckily in the past? I know I can’t be the only one dealing with a crazy diagnosis after entering parenthood!